Being the Example

Saying “Put down your iPad!” while having your own phone in hand? Yep, we’ve all been there. Screens are such a big part of our lives. But here’s the thing - our kids do notice this, and they follow our behavior.

They’re watching how we use our devices, when we use them, and what we choose instead. The truth is, the most powerful way to teach healthy screen habits is through our own example.

With ScreenTreat, we talk a lot about balance and connection. Not because screens are bad, but because the way we use them matters. Kids don’t just hear what we say — they copy what we do.

So what does that look like in real life? Put some must-do tasks for yourself. I use Screentreat myself by setting daily limits. I have added my must-do tasks, like reminding me to take vitamins and scheduling morning sports, before I can start browsing social media. I also incentivize my daily steps, and set a nighttime cut-off - same as I do for kids. 

Showing a good example also means putting your phone away during dinner, even if that notification is calling your name. It also helps to say out loud: “I’m taking a break from my phone for a bit,” so your kids see that unplugging is normal. Those little moments model self-awareness. They show that balance is something we practice, not something we’re perfect at.

Of course, it’s not all about cutting screens out. Sometimes it’s about leaning in together — watching a movie as a family, playing a silly game, or learning something new online. When screen time becomes a shared experience instead of a solo habit, it feels less like a fight and more like connection.

And it helps to fill the rest of your family’s time with things that remind everyone there’s life beyond the screen — cooking, being outdoors, board games, even just talking about your day. Kids thrive when they see that joy, curiosity, and fun don’t all come from a glowing rectangle.

I believe technology can support this - turning screen time into something earned through real-world activity, not something you have to nag about. It becomes positive and intentional, rather than a constant struggle.

Healthy screen time starts with connection, not control. And that connection starts with us.